Hey Reddit, Firstly i used ai for this text due to my poor english ,I need a reality check on a situation with a girl from my university. We were in the same English class but didn’t talk much at first. Things changed recently, and I’m getting a mix of high-interest signals and sudden walls. I can't tell if she likes me or if I'm reading too much into it. Here is the timeline:
1. The Early Signs & The Email
A few weeks ago, I saw her at the cafeteria, sat next to her, and we had a great conversation. After that day, she started hanging around me a lot, opening doors for me when leaving class, and we had really long talks. Before an exam, she mentioned she had a brutal Economics exam the following week. I wished her luck. Later that day, she went out of her way to look up my email address through the school’s internal system and sent me a pseudo-invite/info about a concert happening that night. I missed the email, but the next day I used it as an opening to invite her to study for our English speaking exam.
2. The 5-Hour "Dates"
- First session: We met up at 7 PM, grabbed food, talked, and practiced until 12 AM (5 hours total). The vibe was great.
- Second session: A few days later, we ran into each other at the library right at closing time. We decided to get food around 9 PM, went back to a lounge, watched a movie, and stayed up until 2 AM. During the movie, our legs were touching, and I put my arm on the back of her chair at shoulder level (didn't touch her directly, but close). She didn't pull away. At one point in the movie, a girl was stalking a guy, and she playfully made a joke about it to refer her stalking to find my email, which I played cool and ignored. I walked her back to her dorm at 2 AM.
3. The Sudden Ghosting & Exam Stress
After that night, she completely vanished into cave-mode for her exams. Two days before her big exam, I texted her to ask how it was going. She replied: "I'm heading to my friends' place right now, can I get back to you later?" I told her to take it easy, but she never got back to me.
Once her exams ended on Friday, I texted her asking if she wanted to hang out over the weekend and do origami (she had previously seen origami papers in my bag and expressed interest). She said Saturday she had to clean her room/do laundry, and Sunday she was going out, but added that if she finished early on Saturday, we could meet. I felt it was a polite excuse. Saturday at 7 PM, she texted saying she had a massive headache and asked if we could skip it. I found out later she literally slept the whole day because her Friday exam went terribly (she’s hyper-focused on grades, to the point where she didn't even visit her family for the holidays).
4. The Recent Text Exchange (The "Not Productive" Wall)
A week later, I checked in on her again. She said she was studying. I asked if she wanted to grab food in an hour.
- She replied with: "I'm not really hungry though 👉👈" * I asked which library she was at, and she said: "I'm in my room."
- I wished her luck and said "Let's study together sometime."
- She replied: "I actually prefer studying alone because whenever I study with someone, I just end up wanting to chat too much. My friends and I always sit at separate tables because of that."
- I sent a sad cat meme saying "Devastating news," and she laughed it off with another cat meme saying "Yeah, it's just not productive/unacceptable."
5. Today's Mixed Signals & The "Garlic Incident"
Today, I was at the library, and she randomly walked up to my desk, said hi, and we ended up talking for a solid 20–30 minutes. She was telling me all about her exams. Her finals end tomorrow, but she is staying on campus until the 15th just to object to some grades.
While we were sitting next to each other, I did something incredibly random. I was absentmindedly smelling my finger and told her out of nowhere: "I cooked yesterday and my finger smells like garlic. I actually really love the smell of garlic." I don't know why I said it, it just came out.
My Dilemma:
On one hand, she looked up my email to contact me, spent multiple 5-hour nights with me until 2 AM, and actively seeks me out in the library to talk for 30 minutes. On the other hand, she turned down studying together because she "gets too distracted chatting," and rejected my weekend plans with what felt like excuses (laundry/headache).
Is she just a hyper-focused, stressed-out student who genuinely gets too distracted by me to study, or am I slowly being relegated to the friendzone? How should I play my next move now that her exams are ending?
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